The Way of the Superior Man is a guide for men to live with purpose, embracing their masculine energy to achieve personal growth and fulfilling relationships. It emphasizes aligning with one’s deepest truth and leading with confidence.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• A man must love his father and yet be free of his father’s expectations and criticisms in order to be a free man.

• Make your life an ongoing process of being who you are, at your deepest, most easeful levels of being.

• If she is a good woman, a strong woman, she won’t tolerate your childish needs for a pat on the head, collecting bigger toys, and being king of the mountain. A good woman will love the childlike part of you, but she wants your life to be guided by your deepest truths, not your untended childhood wounds. She wants to feel that at your core you have grown beyond the need for kudos.

• The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. She won’t settle for anything less.

• Praise is literal food for feminine qualities. If you want your woman to grow in her radiance, health, happiness, love, beauty, power, and depth, praise these qualities. Praise them daily, a number of times.

• The whole point of an intimacy is to serve each other in growth and love, hopefully in better ways than we can serve ourselves.

• The game of life is to find each situation workable, to transform each occasion through the magnification of love, to give your fullest gift in every moment, and to have no attachments to the outcome, knowing it’s all going to rise and fall and rise again.

• If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost. You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you. If you have lost touch with this impulse, then you will begin to feel ambiguous in your life.

• Even though she may seem to want to be the center of your life, she doesn’t. She wants you to know the center of your life, however, so she can trust you. Even if you must go off somewhere without her to fulfill your purpose, like a man going to war, she will be able to trust you and love you, as long as your purpose is real and true.

• The feminine responds to the moment of energy, forgetting her man’s history of past behavior. A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment.

• How can you be more responsible? Not necessarily by doing more work. You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose, and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.

• When a man sees a beautiful woman it is natural for him to feel energy in his body, which he usually interprets as sexual desire. Rather than dispersing this energy in mental fantasy, a man should learn to circulate his heightened energy. He should breathe fully, circulating the energy fully throughout his body. He should treat his heightened energy as a gift which could heal and rejuvenate his body, and, through his service, heal the world. Through these means, his desire is converted into fullness of heart. His lust is converted into service.

• Familiarity breeds depolarization, and depolarization breeds contempt amongst lovers.

• Use your body and mind to smithereen your woman’s darkness into love. Even if she has yellow eyes and fangs, she still loves to dance. It’s up to your freedom and strength of transmission whether she drains your energy, bites your wimbly head off, or surrenders to your fearless passion.

• Embrace your woman, if you have one, and give her what you want from her. Give it all to her.

• Once you have grown into independent adulthood, you no longer need somebody to take care of you. You can be responsible for yourself. In particular, you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness. Nobody can live your life for you. You must create your own health, success, and happiness.

• Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there. If you don’t know one of these, then you need to discover it by any means necessary.